Do you eat chicken? Flesh or bone?

And there I was, in the recording studio where the sound engineer and I were working on mastering my song I wrote and composed. When finally it was done, I had my own song in my mp3 player!!! Can you feel how happy and excited I was? I came back home listening to it. My parents listened to the song, all said it was great. I went to my friend Avi, he said- Best song he heard till now. I went to my aunt, she said- Wow great song son. I also went to friends who listened and said- “Ffffhheww.. Nothing special, get out of here..”

I can tell you it made me sad, it was emotionally damaging to a boy who just got his first song released.

That night when I came back home, I went straight to my father with all my complaints, and said- “Why is it that they didn’t like my song? Dad why is it that they cursed it?” My dad asked me- “Bittu do you like your song?” I said- “Yeah, don’t you?” He said- “I do love it. Your mom loves it a lot. We are proud of you.” 


Then he kept silent and said to me- “Bittu I know you love chicken, how exactly do you eat chicken when your mom makes it?” I thought this was a question my 8-year little brother can answer. Still I said- “How I eat chicken when mom makes it? I take it from the dish, eat the flesh, remove the bone and eat the flesh again.” Then he said- “if you eat chicken removing the bone, why can’t you take the positive responses removing the negative ones, my son?” That day my father taught me this lesson- take the flesh, remove the bones. What do you take? Flesh or bones? Positive or negative?

Let them fall in love with you!!

When I was talking to a friend yesterday, she gave me a lot of good advice about my life as I asked her. Then suddenly I observed something strange. Though she was giving me timeless wisdom, each time I was going to tell her something when she was finished, she was not letting me speak!!! Each time I was asking her something, she started talking EVEN before I finished asking. Reminded me of what I learnt from Robin Sharma- "Resist the temptation to interrupt. Catch yourself just before you do so and pay more attention to the content of what the other person is saying to you." So brilliantly said. Thanks Robin.

It's so true.When we talk,we want people to listen to all we say, but how often do we give others a good listening? 

How often do you just nod and keep listening to all a lovelorn says after her boyfriend breaks up with her?

How often do you not interrupt when your spouse complaints about what they don't like in you?

My girlfriend is a great listener. And the other day when I was trying to find out 3 best qualities about her, I came to the realization that- she's courageous, she's honest, and she's a world-class listener. And you know what- when I am upset, I go to her cause she listens to all my complaints, all I have to say.

This blog is not about my spouse. But I can't stress more on the fact that you should listen more. Just be silent and keep listening. I call it SHUT UP AND LISTEN. What I have realized by watching many brilliant and wise people is that- if you wanna be wise, you have to learn to shut up for a longer period of time.

So here are 3 ways you can adopt to take your listening skill to the next level, right now-

1) Shut up.

2) When someone is saying something, stop rehearsing your replies inside your head.Give them a good hearing. Get behind their eyeballs and try to understand all they are saying.

3) Learn to ask powerful questions and encourage them to speak. Robin says it so well- "After the other person makes her points, rather than immediately responding with your opinion, reflect on what you have just heard. Saying something such as, 'Just to make sure I understand you, are you saying…?”

Trust me if you can lend others your ears, they will gift you their heart. The single best thing you can give someone being generous is your listening. And the single worst thing you can do is- you can interrupt. And trust me on this too, when you master the art of listening, people will fall in love with you- just like I fell on with my spouse.

Who will you give a good listening today?

Will you be a student of your past?

Just before coming online, I was studying (copying an assignment from wikipedia), and suddenly an incident came to my mind, which made me out of focus. I felt bad. I was feeling,-"Shit why could I do that? How? I shouldn't have done that ever!! Didn't I have brain?"

It happens often. That I recall an incident of the past and feel embarrassed. Ever happened to you?

Then I sat with my journal and wrote everything I was feeling (I don't hide anything in front of journal and God). I wrote what all mistakes were coming into my mind that I actually repent for, feel embarrassed about. Really, horrible mistakes. Blunders.

I kept writing...

And here is the conclusion I came to-

Had I not made those mistakes(and learnt from them), I'd not be the person I am today. Two questions to ask yourself when you go through these kind of embarrassments-

1) Did I learn from it?
2) Will I repeat it?

We all make mistakes and we all realize them, sooner or later. In a letter to me, Darren LaCroix, the 2001 World Champion of public Speaking wrote," We all make mistakes.. We realize them more as we grow up.."

I am growing up.

What about you?

My Dream Discovered @ youtube

Last year when I was in 1st year in college, I still remember, I had a presentation in class the very next day. Back then I didn't know much about presentation skills. So I went to youtube.com to find some tips on presentation skills. I saw some videos and suddenly I watched a video named "Your dream is not for sale" by an American Guy. I started the video and I was startled. I was stunned!! This man spoke fantastically. His message was crystal clear, he was amazing and also humorous. I was so much overwhelmed that I watched the video 3 times right then. After I finished watching it 3 times, I said to myself- "I wanna be like this." As the guy was a World Champion of Public Speaking, I told myself- "I will be the World Champion of Public Speaking".

Guess what!! The black American guy is none other than Craig Valentine. I know you have heard of him from me if you are connected with me on fb or personally(I love talking about him).

I am not the World Champion yet. Even I am not a great speaker yet (NOT EVEN CLOSER). I am just a beginner. But yes! I have taken the first step towards my goal (also I have found my goal, have you?). I have taken that very first step. Now I am a member of Toastmasters International, and I make 2-3 speeches a week on a regular basis. I somewhere read- "Take the hardest step first, rest will be easy."

Oh yeah!! Don't we all have dreams and goals in life? Small or big, dreams are dreams. We often don't believe in our own dreams. Bad thing! Often we don't believe ourselves. Bad thing! Even when we do believe in our dreams, we hesitate to take the first step. Makes sense?


Remember-  "Take the hardest step first, rest will be easy."

I am proud I have taken my first step, but way to go.

What's YOUR dream?

What's the first step you can take RIGHT NOW towards your dream?

Who do YOU want to be a Hero of?








Now here is the youtube video of Craig I watched that day. Enjoy it!!!

Toy of Camelia Roy!!

He said “With you I can go,
There is a small condition for you though.”
“What’s that?” She asked and her eyes were filled with joy
He looked elsewhere and turned to her and said-
“I will keep all other promises, but I can’t give you that toy.”

Little, she wept for her dream-toy she was going to lose
Anyhow she wasn’t anymore supposed to choose
“Agreeing?” she was asked and she crumbled the pain
She was happy for her father that she was supposed to get again.

She got the old father back in her life, she had joy and hope
Each moment she prayed to God not to let her loving Papa elope
Hiding the tears about the toy beneath the pillow,
But happy about getting her father’s love flow, Zia said-
“Papa I love you, for you I can leave my play, I can do anything”
Hahaha
Little did she know that it was dream when she was sleeping?

Heaven will be fine

Another day goes by with faded dreams

Another evening arrives for you to love them

And I can’t seem to find my way

Memories and shadows, forget about fame

Your heaven will love you

Your heaven will love you

I can’t think of any other way-out

I can’t love any other soul for you hate it

Whatever you say, I know you are not okay

Still for you I am not, I’ll never be fit

Your heaven will love you

Your heaven will love you

(Love goes on, so does life...)

how to start reading books and enjoying 'em

Hi all!! First of Shubho Noboborsho. It's Bengali New Year today. And I want you all to accept my honest and sincere love and best wishes. Have a wonderful and sexy life ahead.


Down here this is the first video which describes the 3-step RECIPE of reading books and enjoying them. I hope it helps you too.


Watch and explore!!

Thank you
Bishal